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McCrum, Rutger Paul

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November 10, 2004 - May 30, 2019

McCrum, Rutger Paul

Rutger Paul McCrum, age 14, died at Children’s Medical Center in Dallas,Texas on May 30th, 2019.

Rutger was born November 10th, 2004 and lived in Dallas, Texas his whole life.  He was the youngest of 6 children,  and was a member of the DFW Church of Christ.

Rutger loved life and was most at home with a pizza, a glass of milk, a video game, and slapstick comedy.  He  did not crave attention, and seemed to be immune to what others thought.  He had an honest way of life, where everyone knew who he was and how he felt.  If he was not having fun, he just ended up missing!  He was very independent and was often found doing his own thing alone away from the group happily entertaining himself or laughing at a joke that only he understood.  He was often with his sister Trinity wherever she went, but enjoyed time alone.  He did not get caught up with possessions, gossip, and never complained.

During his struggle with Brain Cancer, Rutger shocked his family, nursing staff, and even his psychologist on how brave, uncomplaining, unafraid and honest he was with life and with facing his own mortality.

Rutger did not have many close friends, but those that were, felt privileged to be in his inner circle.

His favorite past time was to go on trips with his dad and sister, listen to BassBoosters, and eat salty food.  If there was a soft blanket to be had, Rutger had it, and liked to snuggle with his mom.

Our son lived a full life his last year on earth.

He took his first flight to the skies in a World War II war-bird and did not get even get sick while flying the iconic plane!  He was able to do an Interview with legend Dirk Nowitzki of the Dallas Mavericks, got to see if he still had a six pack on his last year of Pro Ball, and stood center court while being named “Honorary co-captain”!

He got to name missiles outfitted on a drone for an overseas mission and received a flag flown by our military in his honor.

Rutger was a content child who finished the race with no enemies, a caring family, a few close friends, and no regrets.  His life is an example to all, and if you knew him, your life was a little better for it.


Rutger is survived by:

Father James McCrum, 46, of Plano Texas,

Mother Heather McCrum, 47, of Plano Texas and are survived by their five remaining children:

Jessica, 30, and Luis Gonzales; and their three children Leah 8, Ellie 6, and Isaias 4, (Garland, TX)

Bobby Joe Baker, 28, his wife Selena and their son Aaron (Caldwell, TX)

Stephanie, 27,  and William Hicks and their son, Tucker Blaylock (Rockdale, TX)

Carlos McCrum, 27 (Addison, TX)

Trinity McCrum, 16 (Plano, TX)


Living Grandparents:

Jamie McCrum (Rowlett, Texas)

Constance and Henry Torres (Houston, TX)

Melvin Davis (Lafayette, In)

Dwight & Laurie Caldwell (Pleasonton, Ca)


The Memorial service will take place at:

CARE Church

1504 East Campbell Rd.

Richardson, Texas  75081

Saturday, June 15th from 5-8pm


Arrangements under the direction of:

Aria Cremation Service and Funeral Home

19310 Preston Road

Dallas, Texas 75252

(214) 306-6700

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Jimmy Perales

June 14, 2019 12:19PM

Jay, my condolences to you and your family. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Melody Hearne

June 14, 2019 11:12AM

Losing a child is never easy. Sending love and light from your GEICO family.

Jennifer Reukauf

June 12, 2019 11:03PM

I so wish I could've gotten to know my crazy, hyper full of life baby nephew better. I got the pleasure of spending July 4th with him, Trinity, and my sister, Heather last summer. I'm sad that he is gone, but I know he is looking down and happy of how many love him and his family. And that his mom and family are such strong people who are instead of grieving are celebrating for he is in a perfect celestial body with Christ and our Lord. We may be having a memorial for him, but I like to think of it as a celebration of life.
I remember one trip they made to Kansas to visit me. We went to the lake. We were in a mild drought and the little area we were at you could just walk from one side to the other. His moms float I think had a rope or maybe a hole he could grab. He pulled us all over the swim area and still didn't wear out. And another time during that visit him and his cousin Michael and a friend went for a walk. Returned with a 1 day old rejected kitten and the alleged mother. That 1 day old kitten got more love his first week of life as Rutger, Trinity and the rest of us taught him to use a bottle.
We may have lost a dear loved one full of joy and beyond brave for his age, but heaven gained a silly,loving, crazy, hyper angel.

dani sandler

June 12, 2019 8:06PM

Energy never dies and Rutger sounds like he was full of unique and powerful energy. He is not in pain or fear and will be in the breeze, the stars and the universe. I hope you and your family are able to feel his kiss on your cheek the next time you feel the breeze. This world is a little less with him gone...

Bearta Thompson

June 11, 2019 12:49PM

I send my condolences to you and your family. May God bless you and give you strength to get through this as the old saying goes(this shall past and as long as you have memories he will forever live). And always remember God males no mistakes. Keep God in your life and you can handle almost anything.May peace be with you and the family.

Melvina Hayes

June 11, 2019 10:33AM

Jay, Thank you for making the Rutger Angel story available to me. What a blessing he is! Something in me flutters and shines brighter after reading this. My deepest condolences to you & your family.

Tasha William s

June 11, 2019 9:46AM

Jay I am sorry for your lost. May the Lord give you and your entire family strength during this time. Thank you for sharing the life of Rutger with us.

Brittney Richardson

June 11, 2019 9:31AM

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Olayinka Balogun

June 11, 2019 8:17AM

I am so sorry for your loss. My heart bleeds as I read this. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family as you go through this difficult time. God bless you.

Kathleen Austin

June 11, 2019 7:44AM

Jay, So sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.

Emily Richardson

June 11, 2019 7:41AM

Sending love to you and your family. It sounds like he was an amazing boy who brought light to everyone who met him.

Turner Armstrong

June 11, 2019 7:29AM

I am literally crying at my desk for you and your family. Surviving your child is probably the most difficult thing that a parent can do. Carrying their memory forward with you is one of the most powerful acts of love that you can show.

Chuck & Rebecca Richey

June 05, 2019 7:21PM

May he fly with the angels

Angela Knight

June 05, 2019 3:00PM

What a beautifully written tribute to Rutger. He will be missed. You are right, my life is better because the you, Trinity and Rutger are part of it. Thank you and love, peace and comfort to you and yours.

Brian Poirier

June 04, 2019 7:40PM

Jay - I am heartbroken to hear about Rutger. You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers. Love you and am here for you no matter how large or small the need may be.

Yoki Henderson

June 04, 2019 12:01PM

The GEICO Personal Injury Claims team sends much love and condolences to the family. May the family be given all the comfort and strength needed to endure this. If you need anything Jay, your GEICO family is here for you.
Rest in Heaven Rutger

Michael pugh

June 03, 2019 3:30PM

I'm in tears. I didn't know your son personally but I do know you Jay. I know how deep your love for your children goes. I'm so sorry for your loss. May god bless your son.