Farmer, Carl C.

June 4, 1949 - January 10, 2014

Carl C. Farmer of Dallas passed away on January 10, 2014 unexpectedly of heart problems.  He was born June 4, 1949 in Akron, Ohio.  Carl received his engineering degree from Tufts University and spent his career in that field.  Carl is survived by his wife, Shelia, his daughter, Alissa and his sister, Ellene Whitmore of Kansas City, Missouri.  Carl never met a stranger, loved the ocean, Jimmy Buffet and the Dallas Cowboys.  He was an avid marksman and in every sense of the word, a true gentleman and a kind soul.

A private family gathering is planned.  In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to Operation Kindness in Carrollton, Texas or to a charity of one’s choice.
Arrangements are under the direction of:

ARIA Cremation Service and Funeral Home
19310 Preston Road
Dallas, Texas 75252


60 replies on “Farmer, Carl C.”

Wendy Coppedge says:

Sheila, I am praying for you and Alissa. I have a great book I will send you. I know you will like it. Please call me when you feel like talking. This time is most difficult.

Love you,


Sandy Cookston says:

My heart is breaking for you Shelia and Alissa, you are in my prayers!

Stephen Varnell says:

My sympathy and prayers go out to Carl’s family on his sudden passing. I only knew Carl for a short period of time but he was one of the friendliest and cheerful people to be around – no matter what else was going on. He never met a stranger and always made others around him feel welcome and appreciated. He will be missed by all that knew him. May God bring peace and comfort to you in this time of loss.

Edward & Kit Simpson says:

To a real great man and good buddy, you will be missed. You were and are a truly great man.

Jay Toadvine says:

Our thoughts and prayers are with you. I worked with Carl at Fluor. He was one of the nicest and most considerate people I have ever met. I will miss Carl.

Kim and Sally Combs says:

Sally and I want to send our deepest sympathy to Sheila, Alissa and the rest of Carl’s family. Carl has been part of my life since the day he started working for my father. Over the years Carl took time to mentor me and support me in any way he could. We had a chance to work together at Fluor which I greatly cherished. After I left Fluor I was honored to learn we would work together again on the Electric Power Conference. Carl was always upbeat and positive and never had a negative word about anyone. Carl will be greatly missed by me and my entire family.

The Combs Family

Lisa Coyle says:

I will continue to pray for you, Sheila and Alissa. This is shocking and beyond sad. I know he feels your love and devotion still….

Jeff and Angie McDonald says:

We were so sorry to hear Carl left us.
Remember we are here for you. We will miss Carl. Love, Jeff and Angie

Christy Naugle says:

Carl loved to tell stories and share his experiences. I remember asking him a question about one of the many acronyms the industry uses for power plants so I could sound half way intelligent when I spoke on the matter. He came into my office, sat down and proceeded to tell me about all the parts of a boiler and how they worked. He also drew a diagram to help me visualize it. It was so very obvious in that moment how much he enjoyed passing on what he knew. He was a good friend and a great person. I miss him.

Barbara Brown says:

I worked with Carl at Fluor. He was truly a ‘great’ guy and we will all miss him.

Rick & Mary Graves says:

Our thoughts and prayers go out to Sheila, Alissa and all of Carl’s family. We have known Carl for many years in the business. He was a true professional and always positive. I enjoyed working with Carl. He was always willing to take assignments and had a can do attitude. As a person he was always enjoyable to be around with an outgoing personality and respect for others. He will be missed professionally and personally.
Rick & Mary Graves

Billie gooch says:

My wonderful son in law you will truly be missed you were loved by everyone who knew you

Fred and Doris and Andy Aldridge says:

Shelia, We are just devasted to hear about Carl. We wish we could be there with you but please know we loved Carl and our thoughts and prayers are with you. We will be in touch soon. We love you much, Fred, Doris, and Andy

BJ White says:

Sheila and Alissa. What a shock. I know you are both still reeling and not able to fully process the loss of your husband/father. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time, and I am here for any kind of help and comfort I can offer.


June Seagraves says:

My thoughts and prayers go out to Sheila, Alissa and all of the family. I worked with Carl at Fluor and he made going to work enjoyable with all of his funny stories. Truly a wonderful person and he will be greatly missed by all.

MJ & Mario Sanjuan says:

What a wonderful man. He will be greatly missed by all that had the pleasure of knowing him. Our prayers are with Carl’s family.

Mario & MJV

Nancy Mutchler says:

Oh Shelia, I am so saddened to hear this news. My heart breaks for you. Carl was such a delightful, wonderful man. My prayers are with you and hopes that all of the good memories will help try to heal that empty space. Susie has told me so many times how incredible both you and Carl were in helping her get back on her feet. My thoughts are with you and Alyssa at this painful time.

Suzi and Steve Joyner says:

Sending hugs and prayers your way…so devasting to lose such a kind-hearted, fun-loving, dear man. Heartbreaking. Please know how much we cherish the special times we spent with the three of you. Praying non-stop for you both.
Love you…Suzi and Steve

Richard Mills says:

I send my condolences to the Farmer family. I’ll sure miss Carl.

Danny Aldridge says:

Carl was blessed with the ability to immediately make you comfortable in his presence. He could not hide the fact that he was genuine and sweet-spirited with a touch of mischievous in his eye. Praying for your strength and fortitude to carry on and do him proud, which we know you will, my beautiful precious Cousin. I will see and speak to you soon and send condolences to Alissa.
Love, Danny

Linda Pace says:

Carl was my football buddy! We were always up on the games. Most Mondays, we shared our thoughts. Last Thursday, something told me to go say hey to Carl since I had not visited with him all week. I am glad I did. He was a gift. He will be greatly missed here at the office.

Renee Flaherty says:

Sheila, I am so glad that I got to meet Carl on Christmas Eve. He made me laugh and smile and was a big part of a wonderful evening. I know that he was a great comfort to Susie when she lost Mark, and I am grateful for that. I will treasure his memory and keep you in my thoughts.

Todd and Kay Nordby says:

So very sad to hear. Such sad news. You guys are in our prayers.

Brooke Nelson says:

My deepest condolences to you and Alissa.

Steve and Debbie Pascoe says:

We will truly miss a great man,lake-neighbor and business associate with an ever present smile and interest in the wellbeing of others. Carl was quick to spot the positive and masterful in guiding others to see value and opportunity, both in business and in daily challenges. He will always be a shining example for those of us with the fortune of calling him our friend.

Lisa Tatum says:

Sheila words can’t express how sad I am to hear about Carl. He was always such a kind and sweet man. I will be praying for you and Alissa during this hard time. You will be with him again one day but until then remember the good times y’all had together. You have so many friends that are here for you. We all love you!!

Heather McInnes says:

Where do I start, My heart goes out to everyone that Carl touched with his presence. I have so many wonderful memories I could write a book. What a blessing I had to be part of his life especially when I lived in Dallas. Carl was always kind and tried to assure everyone was happy. He was a constant even when everything around him was chaos. I always knew that no matter what, he would be the voice of reason. Carl will be missed but thought of often. –Shelia and Alissa – I hope that you both find comfort in each other as that is what I believe Carl would have wanted. – Please know that you have family – Including myself that is here and has always been here for you. Here is the cool thing about family – you can’t get rid of them – we are here to stay. – Know I love you both with all my heart. – I think of you often and will continue to do so. –

Pamela Phares Ramage says:

I am so, so sorry to hear about Carl and I have been thinking of you ever since. Carl was so kind. I know he was loved by many.

Please know that you and family are in my thoughts.

Tommi And Chris Wilson says:

Sheila and Alissa, our thoughts and prayers go out to you. It was a shock to hear about Carl. I will always remember his kindness and how he made me feel like family. He will be missed.

Richard Granstrand says:

I am saddened by the news of Carl’s passing. We were good friends back in the 70’s when we both worked at C-E in CT, and did many things together and with other friends. My sympathy is extended to his family. Godbless.

Tom Phares says:

Carl was more like a brother, than a cousin. Enough said!

Donna and Russell Burton says:

Sheila, we were so sorry to hear about Carl. We have such fun memories of Carl from the dinner club years ago! You and Alissa are in our thoughts and prayers, now and as you go forward.

Jim Gwiazdowski says:

I was sadened to hear of Carl’s passing. My sympathys to the family. I worked with Carl at CE for many years and we shared good times at company affairs. He was a tennis partner and email exchanger, an all around good guy. He will be missed.


My heart felt sympathy goes out to Carl’s family. I worked with Carl at Combustion Engineering for many years. It was always a pleasure to work with Carl. He was truly a gentleman.

Tam Warner Minton says:

Sheila, I cannot begin to tell you how sorry I am. I only met him a few times, but both Randy and I enjoyed his company very much. I have no idea what to say to comfort you, but don’t be afraid to ask for help. You were so very, very nice to me when Randy was so ill, and I want to help you, too. Please know I am thinking about you and sending you as much strength and healing as I can.

Lee Anne Smith says:

Shelia – I’m am so sorry and saddened to hear about Carl. My heart goes out to you and Alissa during this difficult time. Keeping you both in my thoughts and wishing you comfort in the coming days.

Lee Anne

Rev. Rich Rindfuss says:

You all are in my prayers.

Lew capuano says:

My sympathies to Carl’s family. I worked with Carl at CE on South Western Public Service and Utility Engineering. He was a class act.

Jay Schweikert says:

Shelia and Alissa, I was devastated to hear about Carl. Since as far back as I can truly remember, your family has been part of my life, and that life was made richer by having Carl in it. I am so, so sad that he is gone.

Charles W. Vincent says:

I truly enjoyed my times with Carl. Always positive, always enlightening. My condolences to Shelia and his family. Know that he is in a better place waiting on you all to meet up in the future.

My friend is gone the memories will remain forever, goodbye Carl!

Dave Pearsall says:

Ah Carl … you left us too soon, too soon. We worked together often at C-E and I always will remember you as one of the good guys – always there with a ready smile and laugh. God bless.

Lou Megliola says:

Shelia, Pat and I were so sorry to hear of Carl’s passing. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and Alissa.

Jim Martin says:

Dear Shelia, I was shocked and saddened to hear the news of Carl’s passing. I knew Carl for almost forty years. From those early days when he was in Dalls sales for CE, throuh the years when I had the pleasure of being his boss to later when we ran across each other Carl defined the word Gentleman. He was always thoughtful and supportive of everyone he came in contact with. His business relationships were sincere and caring but never as important as his love of you and your daughter. Carl was a loving and caring gentleman and the world will miss him but we were all better off for having had the opportunity to know him.

Edward & Gloria Rogozinski says:

Sheila and Alissa and family our please accept our sincerest condolences on your lost. Carl was always a friend to us, he will be missed.

Ed & Gloria Rogozinski

Lauren Dittman says:

Sheila, I am deeply saddened to hear of your loss. My heart-felt thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. My love and sympathy to you.

Betty Kenner says:

Sheila, there are just no words. I’m so sorry and have been thinking about you every day since I heard about Carl. I wish that I had the opportunity to meet him. Hope to see you when you get back to yoga and give you a hug.

Ron Jones says:

I knew Carl when he was in the Dallas office for CE and I worked in Windsor in the Aftermarket business.I remember bringing some of my customers to view a plant in the Dallas area,and what a wonderful host Carl was. My sincere condolences to his family.

Sam Schweikert says:

I so truly loved getting to spend time with Carl in whatever capacity. After Mark passed he was so generous in the time he was able and willing to spend with me. The countless trips to the lake where we got to grill, ride jet-skis, boats, and maybe the most unique and memorable event of mowing the lawn were so wonderful and necessary at a time in my life where I needed it most. I will always remember him and those most cherished of times.

Garrick Spaulding says:

My condolences to the family. I worked with Carl in the good old days and remember Carl and his shinning smile and always pleasent personality. Gole bles Carl and family.

Carl, Lei and Ana says:

Sheila, We all send our kindest, heartfelt sympathy. I cannot tell you anything about Carl you don’t know 100x better. May you find some peace in knowing that Carl did touch our lives and we are better for that.

Brian & Andrea Sander says:

We were so sad to hear of Carl’s sudden passing this last week. I have many good memories from my younger days of Carl & Shelia always making time to spend with me when in Dallas.

I often came to Dallas with my Dad’s family or for a summer vacation at my Grandparents house. Carl ALWAYS made time to come pick me up and take me to their house to spend time together. I remember going for a run or two with him, having a great time racing toy cars on a track set up on their dining room table, and of course swimming in their “B” shaped pool.

I’ve quoted Carl often on his philosophy of cars in the years since he told me, “The way I see it, the car replaced the horse” His point was that it’s just to get places and he didn’t care much about it as a “baby” so to speak.

Shelia & Carl would ask every time I visited if I had a girlfriend yet. When I did meet my future wife, their family made sure to come to KC for our wedding, which we were grateful for.

Later, after Andrea & I were married with kids, Carl made time to come visit us while on one of his business trips to Kansas City and we were also able to have a good time with him and our two young daughters at his Lake house in Texas.

What stands out to me most about Carl was how he made it a priority to spend time together every opportunity we had.

We miss him.

Brian, Andrea & kids

Alison Vallenari says:

Shelia dear,
I was shocked and so deeply saddened when I heard from Susie about Carl’s sudden passing. I will always think of Carl with his ready smile and a warm embrace. I remember so clearly how wonderful both you and Carl were when Mark was so sick. Your steady and loving friendship will never be forgotten and I hope you feel the same support that you so readily gave. May the love of your family and friends sustain you, now and in the coming months.

Doug and Debbie Stone says:

Sheila and family, please accept our sincerest condolences on your loss. We are still numb from the experience that Friday night. Carl was always a good friend to us. I still look for him when I am out walking Rocky and expect him to be coming around the corner with a big smile on his face. He was full of life and always happy. He will be missed.

Allen Kasper says:

This was not the start to the year I had hoped for, for sure. A good man leaves us way too soon. I knew Carl from our days with CE and our interactions since then were always pleasant and helpful to each other. I will miss his wit and smile and the help he was always ready to provide.

Linda Barnby says:

Shelia, I just discovered this sad news. My heart goes out to you and Alyssa and all of your family members and friends who cherished him so deeply. I read all these wonderful words of tribute to him as a gentle and kind soul and I echo every sentiment. I so want to rush to your side, comfort you and entertain you and help you get through this challenging time in your life. If there is anything you can think of that I can do to help, don’t hesitate one second to call me, my dear sweet friend.

Huge hugs for you and Alyssa!


Lisa Miller says:

Dearest Sheila,
I continue to be shocked and saddened to think of Carl’s passing. I am so thankful I was able to get know him over the last couple of years.
I will always treasure the time we spent together this past Christmas Eve. As was always the case, Carl was friendly, charming, delightful to be with, and brought a fun energy to any gathering he was a part of. I can be counted as one of the many who will miss him.
My thoughts and prayers continue for you and Alissa.
Much love,
Lisa Miller

Simon Phillips says:

Sheila and family,

I was so sorry to hear of Carl’s passing. We were colleagues in the power generation business for many years and Carl often looked me up in Houston when he was in town. He was a very good friend.
My condolences to you all.

Dale Hendry says:

Shelia, just heard of Carl’s passing last week. Keeping you and Allissa in our daily prayers.

Bernie L. Preisz says:

I was shocked to hear of Carl’s passing. We had talked on a regular basis and had some exciting plans for the future. The world is an emptier place with Carl not in it. He is missed my many and the hearts of all that knew him go out to his family.

Jeff and Emily Schroeter says:

Carl was a wonderful man and friend. He had a such a nice sense of humor, enjoyed life and added much to the power industry which was how I knew him. He will be missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with Sheila and Alissa.

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