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Payer, Steve

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January 16, 1961 - November 11, 2014

Payer, Steve

On the night of November 11, 2014, Forrest Steven Payer passed away after a five year battle with cancer.  He was attended at home by his spouse and a close circle of family and friends who loved and cherished him dearly.

Steve is survived by his parents, Joanne and Forrest Payer in Little Rock; his best friend and spouse of 22 years, Shawn Barron, his three sisters and a number of cherished nieces, nephews, and great nieces and nephews.

Steve was born in Little Rock, Arkansas on January 16, 1961, the third of four children and the only son of Joann and Forrest Payer.  He attended high school at Catholic High School for Boys in Little Rock. Steve went on to attend the University of Arkansas in Fayetteville and Memphis State University where he graduated with a Bachelor Degree in Nursing.

Steve spent the last 20 years of his career as a Registered Nurse, functioning as the Night Supervisor in the intensive care unit of Baylor University Medical Center in Dallas, providing care primarily to patients immediately following an organ transplant procedure.  Steve took great pride in his work and his responsibility to the patient and their families.  His colleagues, also friends, describe him as a true leader – nurturing, patient, loved, gentle spirit and compassionate …the list goes on.  As Esther Ngo adds, “Steve renewed my love for nursing.  Initially, I called him Daddy to get a rise out of him, to aggravate him, but over our 17 years of friendship, the nickname “Daddy” really did fit…He was an ambassador for nursing, demonstrating the strength and kindness that all nurses should use in their practice.”

At this time of year, you could always count on Steve to know the score when it came to college football.  Steve was a true Razorback fan and made it a point to watch the games.  He had a special place in his heart for his two – four legged daughters – Jesse, a Boston terrier, and Nikki, a whippet.  They brought him and his spouse great comfort during these difficult times.  Steve kept up-to-date on current events and also had a knowledge and deep interest in historical events.  He loved to travel and was an intelligent man with an uncanny ability to remember vast amounts of information.  Unfortunately that also included to his delight, remembering crazy childhood stories that could embarrass his siblings and cause his parents to just shake their heads and roll their eyes!

Steve was a selfless, giving person who was quick to help others but never asked for anything for himself.  He loved life and the outdoors — anything from trips to the Florida beaches or his own beautiful back yard.  Most important, Steve was a very caring, loving family member and friend.  Family was so valuable to Steve – he was always in touch with his family and took such delight in surprising his sisters and mother with jewelry at family get togethers.

Steve’s memorial service will be held on Saturday, December 6, 2014 at 1:00 PM at the Aria Memorial Chapel.

A special thanks goes out to our close family friends –his spouse Shawn, his little sister Missy Payer Ebeling, Gloria Barron, Shea Sears and Esther Ngo, who were always there for Steve.

Arrangements are under the direction of
ARIA Cremation Service and Funeral Home
19310 Preston Road
Dallas, Texas 75252



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Rick Wilson

November 11, 2016 9:03AM

How is it that it is already two years since we lost Steve? He is missed and thought of every day. I know he is looking down and smiling at how well Shawn has carried on with his love and commitments from their ceremony. His love and strength will not be forgotten as long as we remember him........but we will always miss you dear friend.

Mike Sader and Rodney Lewis

December 05, 2014 9:39PM

We are deeply saddened by our dear friend's passing. My heart felt condolences to my dear friend Shawn. You will be missed Steve.

Matt Marsich

December 03, 2014 6:56PM

I lived in Dallas less than 6 months but Steve and Shawn were my best friends. In such a short time I had made a friend for life. Because of the distance between us I never got to see Steve that much but our friendship never dwindled. Rest in peach my friend.

Andelynn Gomes-Ford

November 27, 2014 1:12AM

It was a great pleasure to have worked alongside Steve. My family's prayers are with you all.

Mary Martin

November 22, 2014 8:49AM

Shawn...I'll never forget Steve and WONDERFUL spirit O:-) and how much you loved him.
I send my prayers for you and the family O:-)
~ Psalms 23~

Michelle Cain

November 21, 2014 7:18PM

Steve was such a genuine kind hearted soul. I'll never forget the lessons he taught me as a nurse new to working with transplants. He was always so patient. He was funny and loved to joke around. I was devastated when he found about his cancer and more devastated when he passed. I recently saw him at the hospital and will cherish my last conversation with him and the long hug I was able to share with him. I will miss him deeply. My sympathies and condolences to his partner, family and friends.


November 21, 2014 11:57AM

My thoughts and prayers are with your family at this time......

Patrice Convery

November 20, 2014 10:00AM

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

D'Orsey Hardy

November 16, 2014 9:03PM

Steve was our glue on nightshift. It hasn't been the same since he left. I was one of the few people that he could talk SEC football with on Mondays after the games. I miss that. 4 West misses him and I am so glad that now he's at peace. Rest in Heaven, Steve. Oh, and Arkansas beat my LSU Tigers yesterday just for you!!

Tracy L. Otto

November 15, 2014 7:54PM

Steve was truly a blessing to so many and will always be remembered as a gentleman who touched lives deeply. He was a man of faith, knowledge, and kindness. Steve dealt with his illness with incredible strength and courage, setting an example for all. Rest in peace, dear friend. May the Lord bless you and keep you in the palm of His hand. Sincere condolences to Steve's family and friends. May your memories bring you comfort.

Vickie Smith

November 14, 2014 3:40PM

Our dear cousin Steve, will sorely be missed, but not forgotten. Our hearts are heavy with sadness, but our hearts are also filled with wonderful childhood memories of Steve, especially on Christmas Eve at our grandparents house! His beautiful eyes and smile were always so warm and cheerful to watch. He fought this battle hard, but know he is now at peace with God.
Love to you all...

Gill Giddens

November 13, 2014 11:44AM

Steve was a good man that will be dearly missed.

My heart and prayers go out to Shawn and Steve's family.